"Let's start doing something right today"

When I saw this personal message of an acquaintance on MSN Messenger, I was like "Wow, this is exactly what I have on my mind right now." So, yeah, let's start doing something right today! No, in fact, not just today but from now on!

It will slowly develop into a good habit and then, one day, eventually, we will find ourselves doing almost everything right.

A topic to ponder about today:
Gossip and Backstabbing and Complaints

Generally, there are many people who like to gossip about other people behind their backs. There are also many people who badmouth about other people whom they find themselves in disagreement with or basically do not like. There are people who are sarcastic about them too. Of course, it is also very common to find people who complain so much about the people around them.

Do we realize that these things that we have been doing are just way too wrong?
Do we really have that substantial amount of time to do all these absolutely pointless things?

If we just keep our lives to ourselves, and start working and doing things that are beneficial and worth learning, we will find ourselves not even the time to backstab other people.

Instead of complaining about a friend who doesn't care, we study and complete our assignments; or work and do our job right and satisfactory. That's how we improve.
Instead of feeling sad and venting out to another friend about a person who doesn't wish to listen to your love problems, bury yourself in doing your chores and housework and get them done by the end of the day. That's how you keep your house together and maintain cleanliness, tidiness and keep it in order. You pay your bills on time. You get your electrical and water supply.
Instead of caring so much about what other people think or say about you, just be yourself, don't be pretentious and do things that bring you bliss and joy, make you feel worth a human and living and worth learning. And be nice to everyone but wise and professional and strict. That's how you can be a better and happier person.

Be independent, walk with God and stand on your feet by yourself, on your own, all byr yourself. Yes, alone. Loneliness, no, a better word would be "solitary" is a great teacher. If you can grasp the meaning behind this philosophy, you're a survivor.

Because, just because you care about one person, that doesn't mean that the person will naturally care for you back. Just because you sat down and listened to her personal problems, that will not mean that she will listen to yours back. Humans are different in many ways and things may not naturally be reciprocal. You can't force them to the way you want them to be. She may think of you differently from the thought of how you yourself is like. Most of us don't really know ourselves well simply because we refuse to admit the parts of us that we're ashamed of, the parts that we want to deny and hide so badly. But this is what other people are capable of seeing us as. Think about one frame of reference of Johari's window- "You know, I don't know".
It may also be that way because people have different tenets of life; different desires; different lifestyles; different mentality; different circumstances; different priorities; different habits; different things to do in life.
And we have to accept that these are facts of life and we can't run away from them. So why be unhappy over something that is so undeniable? It becomes a trivial thing when things become more acceptable, don't they?

Or will you feel that because these kinda reality exists, the world is just so sad? Now, that's what you call "Negative Thinking". It ain't healthy, brother and sister. The world doesn't exist to naturally give comfort to you. It exists for you to create a small place of comfort in it.

I am ashamed to admit that I do find myself gossiping and thus backstabbing people. Although "backstab" sounds very much severe, gossip is a form of backstabbing. Although I unintentionally do it without the desire to cause any harm, it is 1) never an excuse because no one can fight logic and consequences 2) in which, it does cause harm; simply because you're already leaving mouthprints (okay, I created that word on my own whim) of bad impression to the other person you blabbed to. You influenced and convinced the other party that the one person whom you're not happy about that he/she is generally not nice.

So, yeah, I wanna stop doing all these things and start doing the right thing.
Because I realize that I simply already have my hands full already with the things that are urgent and important. The only difference is I am not doing them right.

So, I simply have to get the engine started!

As the saying goes, do no harm.

P.s. Okay, I have confessed my sins =P A relief. And a great assurance to the path of becoming a better Christian.